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This is me. Searching. Watching. Failing. Getting back up. Learning. Healing. Succeeding. Loving. Writing. Thinking. Helping. Listening. Working. And always trying to be my best and most authentic self. I hope you enjoy my blog focusing on the many lessons I have learned becoming a stepmom.
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My Epiphanies…
Stepmom Grief Series: Stage 1 & 2 – Shock & Denial
When I met my husband, after a difficult divorce and raising two kids on my own, he felt like a breath of fresh air. Everything between us just clicked. Spending time together, talking about work, going to music festivals, traveling—it all felt easy. We were vulnerable with each other, sharing things we had never shared with anyone, not even our exes. We explored the kind of partners we wanted to be, loved each other’s kids, planned our future together, built a house, talked about money, and even aligned on parenting styles. When challenges came up—especially around our kids and exes—it…
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Second Wife Series: When Exes Bash
My divorce with my ex was difficult and contentious, no doubt. But no matter how angry I was, how deeply I was hurt, or how bitter I felt, I had one rule: never bash him on social media or in front of the kids. For more than 10 years, I’ve followed that rule 90% of the time. (I’m only human, after all.) While I generally stick to the “don’t post when you’re angry” guideline, there have been moments when I aired my grievances online. Or, after another argument with my ex, I let a comment slip in front of the…
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Second Wife Series: Jealousy is a Bitch
Jealousy is irrational, I know—but every Second Wife feels it at some point. So why be jealous? I mean, I got the guy in the end, right? He chose me, he loves me, we go to bed together and cuddle every night, and he married me. Yet, that damn green-eyed monster sneaks in more often than I’d like to admit. What am I jealous of? If I’m honest, it’s mostly about the “firsts” I didn’t get to share with him: the first wedding, first pregnancy, first apartment, first child (then second child), first international trip, first family vacation, and building…
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Happy Stepfamily Day! (Or Not?)
Can you believe National Stepfamily Day was established 27 years ago? I know, it can be hard to think about celebrating a holiday that honors stepfamilies when you’re just trying to get through the day without losing it. I’ve been there (and sometimes, I still have those days). For me, National Stepfamily Day has brought a range of emotions over the years. Some years, I truly want to celebrate, and other times, I just roll my eyes and laugh at the irony of “Happy Stepfamily Day.” But over time, I’ve learned to appreciate it in my own way, just like…
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Exorcising My Writing Demons
There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.~Ernest Hemingway Launching a blog with a post as to why I am blogging in the first place and an “About Me” page is one thing; but realizing that I have now committed to the world I will be writing on a regular basis is another. So cue in the impending doom of “writer’s block” and the almost full blown panic of realizing I have not creatively written anything in years…10 years to be exact. I have loved writing for as long as I can…
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I Can’t Escape Being a Millennial…So, Welcome to My Blog
Once upon a time there was a girl who recalls the good ol’ days of high school when it came to things like dial-up, AOL, yahoo, chat rooms, Facebook, and Ask Jeeves. It opened the world to us with just a few clicks. Skip many years later and we have these computers in our pockets with the creation of the “smart phone.” It still amazes me when I look at my kids and they don’t even know a world that wasn’t at their fingertips. I will be that person who says what has now become almost a cliche: Technology has…
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Stepmom Epiphanies 